why are we so hateful to ourselves?

Today we have so much self-deprecation in our everyday lives. Too many jokes are made about ourselves. I find myself making jokes all the time about myself. It's always good to have modesty and to be humble. Life is short and we shouldn't take things too seriously, including ourselves. 

It's a beautiful trait to have to be able to take things in stride and not get down on yourself or sweat the small stuff, but sometimes we take it to extreme. I watch YouTube videos, and some of the most popular ones are when the YouTuber is making jokes about themselves, like, "I'm a piece of shit person" and other things along those lines-- you know what I'm talking about.

I'm sure you may be thinking, "They are just kidding around, don't take it so seriously", but it got me thinking, we don't take it seriously enough. You say something enough times and you begin to think it's true. I catch myself calling myself chunky, or reminding people I'm 23 as if it is a bad thing- when it's so not!

So I wanted to make a list of 3 questions for me to ask myself:

1. What are 5 things I love about myself?
2. What have I learned from my biggest mistake?
3. What compliment do most people give to me? Do I agree? Why?

I know the last one is really three, but it's therapeutic to try to look at yourself in the best light. I personally try so hard to be "self-aware" , and I have found that 90% of the time I am pointing out my flaws and trying to correct them- not seeing the qualities I bring to the table. Or I look at by "bad qualities" and don't ever look at the positive things that those qualities bring. 

Example: I am very ridged in my schedule and don't take spur of the moment things wonderfully- some may see that as not having the ability to be flexible. I could say to those people that I am able to keep a schedule and no one would ever have to worry about me getting the things done that I need to that day. It's really a good quality to have in the work place. hah

I challenge you to ask yourself those questions- or whatever questions you can think of that make you have to be nice to yourself. It's okay to know your positive qualities and take a moment to admire yourself.

Those are my thoughts for today! Talk to you next time!

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