to be "grace on fire"

Tonight I want to talk about confidence. Today I was lucky enough to be in a class listening to a woman speak on etiquette and business & I heard a phrase that spoke to me. "Gravitas", which means, "Grace on Fire". That right there is confidence. To me, it isn't about being the best at something. It's knowing that I am able to not look at myself and make sure I am correct, but able to engage with everyone else. 2018 is the year of being self aware for me. Too many people my age spend more time deflecting than bettering themselves. I want to work on taking ownership of my flaws as well as gracefully accepting accomplishments. I want to learn to show more empathy & allow myself to be emotional.  

In this world humans need one thing aside from food, water, and shelter, and that is to feel important. If I am able to detach myself from what I am doing and I am able to focus on the interaction taking place in front of me- then for that moment I am making someone else feel important. If I can make that happen then I stand a greater chance at forming a relationship with that person.

My goal is to obtain "Grace on Fire". I want to hold myself accountable to the highest standard that I don't have any other option but to succeed. It's not a resolution, because humans cannot make a drastic change like that- it's more of a teaching moment within myself. Being excellent isn't being 1,000% better at something, its being 1% better than I was yesterday. 

I cannot give what I don't have. If I am not confident in what I am doing or saying, how am I able to instill confidence in my peers, my family, or my kids? Simply put; I can't. We are all good at something. We all have that one thing that gets us excited to do- why? because we are good at it. Be confident in what you are doing and strive to do better, because you what to claim to be the best, then you damn sure better be the best!

Walking into that room today, I didn't have any real plans of taking something away from it, but I did. I was there for a reason, because what she said clicked like nothing else in my life ever has. I needed to be in that space with her and hearing what she had to say.

I challenge us to all  be more self aware

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