starting off on the wrong foot

Just because you start off on the wrong foot, doesn't mean that you have to keep the hate going. As of late I have started trying to nurture a relationship that started out terrible. We literally got into an argument the first time we met. Granted we were both drinking, and there was a major miscommunication! But the bottom line was that there was this tension that no one was talking about. We played nice when we were around family or in public, but we both knew shit was not good. 
I am trying by best to grow the hell up. I am 23 and I still let the little shit bother me, when it isn't necessary.  
I could go into my side of the story and all the he said she said crap & talk about all the details of the fight- but it's unimportant.
The point being, I think is young adults; mainly women we seem to feel the need to hold a grudge and keep score. And really all it is is a really drawn out pissing contest. And as girls, we both sit to pee, so we both lose. 
Why do we feel the need to keep "having issues" with others just because of one incident? Is it because we want to save face around our other friends? Or are we really that damn sensitive?! Something tells me its the first option. 
It's okay to make up and be friends after a fight or miscommunication. But if you can't get over whatever happened then keep to yourself. Don't go pretending that alls cool when it's not. All that's going to do is perpetuate the problem.

Now, this girl and I don't really have an option but to get our shit together because our significant others are related... but its taken about 3 years now for this to start. But better late than never.
I'm not saying that we arr having sleep overs & drinking wine while braiding each others hair, but we are trying. And isn't that all that anyone wants out of a friend? Someone who tries. 
She texted me late last night to tell me how she has been keeping up with my blog, and it melted my heart. It really made me feel good, not only about myself, but about how much we had grown in the last few months. She is a good human, and I would like to be close with her one day- we are hopefully getting there, but it'll take time. Like all things- when rushed; its shit. 
So thank you Tiffany, for being a good person, and I am excited to mend this friendship. ​