I am not a feminist

I'm not a Feminist. Yup, you read that right. I'm not a feminist. Not in any way, shape, or form. Period.

I bet some of you are surprised to hear that. Well, those of you who have spent any time around me that is. But it's true. I'm not. Now, that's not to say I am not all about women empowerment! I am 110% behind that! I think if you can do the same job as a man, then you should be paid accordingly. I think that no means no, and it's disgusting that men still think its appropriate to cat- call you while walking into the gas station at 6am on your way to work. 

It blows my mind that for the most part, the expectation is still there for the woman to cook and clean the house while still working full time. You have to watch what you wear so you don't open the floor for derogatory comments to be made. When a woman sleeps around- shes a whore, when a man does it- its just a topic of conversation. When a woman goes out to a bar- she will more than likely be hit on multiple times by some guy who inevitably gets turned down and then shes a bitch. When a guy gets hit on... well that's a different story. 

But humor me for a moment and think if what a feminist is today. No, not what it is really meant to be, but what it is as of right now; at 12:14pm on March 31st, 2018.

When the feminist movement started it was about women empowerment- because lets be honest, we needed empowering. At that point women were dishwashers & baby-makers. Not doctors or lawyers. Women were the lesser species. Men were at the top of the food chain. 
Women did what they were told to do when they were told to do it. 

Today- a "feminist" is simply a man-hater. It makes me so sad to see what such a wonderful movement has turned into. Blaming men for everything wrong. Spewing words of hate and filth just because you can because you have a vagina.

A real woman to admire is one who doesn't blame a man for not getting the promotion, but pulls herself up by her boot straps and gets shit done to prove them they made the wrong choice. I will never blame men for what isn't right in my life or in the lives of others. Its up to you to make the change we want to see in the rest of the world. Don't bitch and carry on, or walk down the street protesting topless because you feel that it should be your right to walk around with your breasts out. Get shit done. Get up and go to work and be a boss! 

Feminism shouldn't be about making yourself "better" than a man. It's about showing your equality. The women who started it- do you think that they would be proud of whats going on today? I feel it's safe to assume no. 
I really could go on and on about this, but my last few posts have been lengthy. So I'll end it here- in order to be respected by others- we first have to respect ourselves and each other. I see day in and day out other women taring each other down. Why? If  we cannot stand together and support each other, then we are doomed. So stop slut-shaming, mom-bashing, and all around damning other women for living their lives differently than you live yours. Just because it's not what you would do, doesn't make it wrong. ​

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