I'm not a Feminist. Yup, you read that right. I'm not a feminist. Not in any way, shape, or form. Period.
I bet some of you are surprised to hear that. Well, those of you who have spent any time around me that is. But it's true. I'm not. Now, that's not to say I am not all about women empowerment! I am 110% behind that! I think if you can do the same job as a man, then you should be paid accordingly. I think that no means no, and it's disgusting that men still think its appropriate to cat- call you while walking into the gas station at 6am on your way to work.
It blows my mind that for the most part, the expectation is still there for the woman to cook and clean the house while still working full time. You have to watch what you wear so you don't open the floor for derogatory comments to be made. When a woman sleeps around- shes a whore, when a man does it- its just a topic of conversation. When a woman goes out to a bar- she will more than likely be hit on multiple times by some guy who inevitably gets turned down and then shes a bitch. When a guy gets hit on... well that's a different story.
But humor me for a moment and think if what a feminist is today. No, not what it is really meant to be, but what it is as of right now; at 12:14pm on March 31st, 2018.
When the feminist movement started it was about women empowerment- because lets be honest, we needed empowering. At that point women were dishwashers & baby-makers. Not doctors or lawyers. Women were the lesser species. Men were at the top of the food chain.
Women did what they were told to do when they were told to do it.
Today- a "feminist" is simply a man-hater. It makes me so sad to see what such a wonderful movement has turned into. Blaming men for everything wrong. Spewing words of hate and filth just because you can because you have a vagina.
A real woman to admire is one who doesn't blame a man for not getting the promotion, but pulls herself up by her boot straps and gets shit done to prove them they made the wrong choice. I will never blame men for what isn't right in my life or in the lives of others. Its up to you to make the change we want to see in the rest of the world. Don't bitch and carry on, or walk down the street protesting topless because you feel that it should be your right to walk around with your breasts out. Get shit done. Get up and go to work and be a boss!
Feminism shouldn't be about making yourself "better" than a man. It's about showing your equality. The women who started it- do you think that they would be proud of whats going on today? I feel it's safe to assume no.
I really could go on and on about this, but my last few posts have been lengthy. So I'll end it here- in order to be respected by others- we first have to respect ourselves and each other. I see day in and day out other women taring each other down. Why? If we cannot stand together and support each other, then we are doomed. So stop slut-shaming, mom-bashing, and all around damning other women for living their lives differently than you live yours. Just because it's not what you would do, doesn't make it wrong.
I wanted to talk about something that is important to me this morning, and that's my tattoos... well tattoos in general.
I have 3, but one is a fairly large cover up. I plan to get more in time, but I always like to sit on an idea of a year or so before committing just to make sure I don't change my mind. But that's just me.
Tattoos are a personal thing. It's artwork that shows so much about you. The way you think, what you see as beautiful, all the way down to the way you see the world. Right there on your skin. I love it. Tattoos are an expression.
I don't have any tattoos in visible places- but that is because I have a very suit and tie job & unfortunately not everyone shares my opinions on tattoos. Is what it is.
My favorite expression I hear is "That isn't going to look as good after 30 years and a baby". Well DUH! I'm not getting this for 53 year old me, I'm getting this for 23 year old me. For the me that feels this way in this moment, at this point in my life. Not for 30 years down the road... I'll have other tattoos for that me.
All of my tattoos have a meaning or reason behind getting them. Not to say that everyone should look at getting ink the same way, I'm just telling you about me.
I have a Swallow on my left shoulder blade with Joshua 1:9 written beneath it.
-- My Papaw passed away when I was in high school and it also happened during a very trying time in my life. I decided on the swallow because it signifies a safe trip home- my Papaw was the type to go to church on Sunday's so even though I am not religious; it felt right to do that as well as have his favorite bible verse added
I have a short bit of the song "Summertime" on my left rib cage.
--When I was little- like when all kids are little my mom sang to me. That was the song she would sing. It's a bit of my childhood I get to have with me all the time.
Lastly I have 2 large flowers that cover what was a Phoenix. The Phoenix was awful! I was embarrassed to get into a bathing suit because I didn't want anyone to see it. This is the only tattoo that I didn't take years to decide on. I just knew I needed it covered- so when I went in for a consult I told the woman who would be doing it that I just wanted her to do what she wanted. Make it pretty- but she had all the freedom to do as she pleased.
Tattoos are not for everyone- and it's okay for people to tell you they don't like tattoos, just as it is okay for you to like them. It's all about the person.