Blog 3.21.18

Okay, so it't been a few days since I've gotten on here to talk. I had a plan for what I wanted to write about, but I changed my mind. So, I believe that all people you have in your life are there for a reason. They bring something to the table; weather it be that they make you happy, or they are funny, or they are the people you go to the bar with to get shit-hammered. Everyone you give your time to has a purpose. Or at least that is how I view my circle. I invest in people who invest in me. Now, I don't mean monetarily. I mean with time and energy. If you will take the time to text me just to say that you heard a joke that you thought I'd think was funny- that's putting forth energy to maintain a relationship.

With all of that being said; what I want to talk... or really vent about is toxic people we for some reason keep in our lives. I am a firm believer that it is your prerogative to remove people who don't bring you joy from your life. Even if it is someone you share DNA with. I know that it sounds harsh, but sometimes the ones who bring us down the most are the ones that we love the most. I don't think that your "family" is always blood. "Family" to me are the ones that care the most; the ones that build you up, and love you unconditionally. 

Just because we come from the same blood line doesn't mean I am obligated to keep you in my life and subject myself to your hatefulness. As humans it is our right to live a happy and healthy life. You don't have to continue to keep toxic people around just because you are related to them. 

Now, I am by no means saying that just because someone says or does something that upsets you or offends you that you should just wright them off. What I AM saying is that if someone is time and time again showing you how little they value you. By either lying, saying hateful things about you or just making you feel bad about yourself then to hell with them. They don't deserve all that you bring to the table as the amazing human that you are. They don't get to see you grow and prosper. You don't have to live your life with people in it just because at birth they were there. That goes for friends and family alike. It's your life and you are allowed to take control. I feel like by being one of the youngest in my family I am not taken as seriously as I should be by others in my family. But life just be's that way sometimes. 

So to get off my soap box for the evening, just do you. Do what makes you happy. Because at the end of the day, YOU are the only one you have to answer to. And if you are happy with your life then screw all of the background noise. ​