I wanted to update you guys on how things are going for us in Babyville. I have my surgery scheduled for the end of July-30 some odd days after we get back from Mexico. At that point we should have most of our questions answered; like, can we get pregnant, and if so am I able to carry full term.
As I said in my last post about all of this we have decided that adoption will be the way we go should we be unable to make or carry a baby. We have also decided that even if we are told that we can get pregnant but it would be a hard pregnancy, that we will more than likely adopt. We originally thought to adopt internationally because we heard it was much cheaper. That's false.
So for anyone looking to adopt here are some things you may want to know (disclaimer, we are still learning ourselves, this is just what I have found out thus far)
1. Its just as expensive to adopt internationally as it is domestically
2. There are unexpected costs with both. Example: visas, visiting country of origin pre birth, rent for birth mother, surprise medical issues, etc
3. It seems to be easier to adopt through an agency
4. It costs anywhere between 25,000 & 50,000 to adopt
5. There is such a thing as a loan specifically for adoption
6. Its not just someone picking you out of a group of other prospective parents- there's home studies, counseling, submitting financial information and interviews.
With all of that being said, Stephen and I are staying positive, but realistic. We would love to be able to have a child naturally, but we know that this is a rout we will more than likely take. We will still do all of the exciting things that come with pregnancy, like a huge announcement, baby shower, and gender party! We are both excited and nervous all at the same time.
Be on the look out for our next update, it may very well be about our first Home Study!